Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
Habits and Hustle
Your subconscious mind is running 95% of your decisions. Your conscious mind, the part that’s setting goals, making resolutions, and telling itself to do better, is only working with the remaining 5%. That gap is why knowing what you should do is never enough.
Thais Gibson has spent over a decade building a framework that actually closes that gap. She is a counselor, founder of the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, and has worked with over 60,000 people through The Personal Development School. In this episode of Habits and Hustle, she breaks down why self-sabotage is not what we all think it is, how your attachment style is quietly running your relationships, and the exact process to rewire patterns you have been carrying since childhood.
This is one of those conversations that will make you look at your own behavior completely differently.
What's Discussed:
(00:05) The real reason your conscious goals keep losing to your subconscious programming.
(15:30) What your attachment style is actually telling you about your childhood.
(29:00) The attachment combination most likely to end in a vicious cycle.
(45:00) Why dating a secure person does not fix an insecure attachment.
(58:00) That one belief that’s quietly destroying your ability to connect.
(1:05:00) What limerence is and why people mistake it for love.
(1:15:00) The five pillars to rewire your attachment style at a subconscious level.
(1:20:00) Why affirmations do not work and what to do instead.
Thank You to Our Sponsors!
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Find more from Jen Cohen:
Website: jennifercohen.com
Instagram: @therealjencohen
Books: jennifercohen.com/books
Speaking: jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements
Find more from Thais Gibson:
Instagram:@thepersonaldevelopmentschool
YouTube:@thepersonaldevelopmentschool
Podcast:The Thais Gibson Podcast
Facebook: The Personal Development School
TikTok: @thaisgibson
Book: The New Attachment Theory
Attachment Style Quiz: attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
Raw Description
<p>Your subconscious mind is running 95% of your decisions. Your conscious mind, the part that’s setting goals, making resolutions, and telling itself to do better, is only working with the remaining 5%. That gap is why knowing what you should do is never enough.</p> <p>Thais Gibson has spent over a decade building a framework that actually closes that gap. She is a counselor, founder of the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, and has worked with over 60,000 people through The Personal Development School. In this episode of Habits and Hustle, she breaks down why self-sabotage is not what we all think it is, how your attachment style is quietly running your relationships, and the exact process to rewire patterns you have been carrying since childhood.</p> <p>This is one of those conversations that will make you look at your own behavior completely differently.</p> <p><strong>What's Discussed:</strong></p> <li> <p>(00:05) The real reason your conscious goals keep losing to your subconscious programming.</p> </li> <li> <p>(15:30) What your attachment style is actually telling you about your childhood.</p> </li> <li> <p>(29:00) The attachment combination most likely to end in a vicious cycle.</p> </li> <li> <p>(45:00) Why dating a secure person does not fix an insecure attachment.</p> </li> <li> <p>(58:00) That one belief that’s quietly destroying your ability to connect.</p> </li> <li> <p>(1:05:00) What limerence is and why people mistake it for love.</p> </li> <li> <p>(1:15:00) The five pillars to rewire your attachment style at a subconscious level.</p> </li> <li> <p>(1:20:00) Why affirmations do not work and what to do instead.</p> </li> <p><strong>Thank You to Our Sponsors!</strong></p> <p><strong>AirDoctor:</strong> Head to<a href="http://airdoctorpro.com/"> <u>AirDoctorPro.com</u></a> and use promo code HUSTLE to get up to $300 OFF today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty (an $84 value) FREE!</p> <p><strong>Kion:</strong> Visit<a href="http://getkion.com/habits"> <u>getkion.com/habits</u></a> for 20% OFF</p> <p><strong>Momentous:</strong> Ready to try supplements that actually do what they claim? Head to<a href="http://livemomentous.com/"> <u>livemomentous.com</u></a> and use code JEN for 35% OFF your first subscription.</p> <p><strong>Therasage</strong>: Visit<a href="http://therasage.com/"> <u>Therasage.com</u></a> and use code JEN to get 15% OFF your order. Your skin deserves this level of care.</p> <p><strong>Magic Mind</strong>: Head over to<a href="http://www.magicmind.com/jen"> <u>magicmind.com/jen</u></a> and use code JEN at checkout.</p> <p><strong>Prolon</strong>: Prolon is offering listeners 30% OFF sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Just visit<a href="https://prolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN"> <u>prolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN</u></a> and use the code JENNIFERCOHEN to claim your discount and your bonus gift.</p> <p><strong>Rho Nutrition</strong>: Go to<a href="http://rhonutrition.com/"> <u>RhoNutrition.com</u></a> and try Rho's Liposomal Glutathione. Use code JEN20 for 20% OFF sitewide.</p> <p><strong>Manna Vitality:</strong> Try it now by using the code Jennifer20 at<a href="http://mannavitality.com/"> </a><a href="http://mannavitality.com"><u>mannavitality.com</u></a>.<br></p> <p><strong>Find more from Jen Cohen: </strong></p> <p>Website: <a href="https://jennifercohen.com"><u>jennifercohen.com</u></a></p> <p>Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/therealjencohen"><u>@therealjencohen</u></a></p> <p>Books: <a href="https://jennifercohen.com/books"><u>jennifercohen.com/books</u></a></p> <p>Speaking: <a href="https://jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements"><u>jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements</u></a></p> <p><br></p> <p><strong>Find more from Thais Gibson: </strong></p> <p>Instagram:<a href="https://tracking.us.nylas.com/l/944b934452824210b03acf300dd7a768/16/67e39d45264b29acba3af17ae66bb18324dd3088cc4ded88be19c1572b440827?cache_buster=1771348356"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/?hl=en"><u>@thepersonaldevelopmentschool</u></a></p> <p>YouTube:<a href="https://tracking.us.nylas.com/l/944b934452824210b03acf300dd7a768/18/977ae53d68f03e2b2f482b5583cefa2bdca54bbe96af089976897d87aed42fc6?cache_buster=1771348356"> </a><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ"><u>@thepersonaldevelopmentschool</u></a></p> <p>Podcast:<a href="https://tracking.us.nylas.com/l/944b934452824210b03acf300dd7a768/20/e75ad43927b6988352b6847b73c55f7fbfa8fb81d49c971b9151bc2da7dbc02a?cache_buster=1771348356"> </a><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-thais-gibson-podcast/id1478580185"><u>The Thais Gibson Podcast</u></a></p> <p>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/"><u>The Personal Development School</u></a></p> <p>TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson"><u>@thaisgibson</u></a> </p> <p>Book: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/New-Attachment-Theory-Relationship-Rewiring/dp/1964508584"><u>The New Attachment Theory</u></a></p> <p>Attachment Style Quiz: <a href="https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/"><u>attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/</u></a> </p> <p><br></p>
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Show Notes
Your subconscious mind is running 95% of your decisions. Your conscious mind, the part that’s setting goals, making resolutions, and telling itself to do better, is only working with the remaining 5%. That gap is why knowing what you should do is never enough.
Thais Gibson has spent over a decade building a framework that actually closes that gap. She is a counselor, founder of the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, and has worked with over 60,000 people through The Personal Development School. In this episode of Habits and Hustle, she breaks down why self-sabotage is not what we all think it is, how your attachment style is quietly running your relationships, and the exact process to rewire patterns you have been carrying since childhood.
This is one of those conversations that will make you look at your own behavior completely differently.
What's Discussed:
(00:05) The real reason your conscious goals keep losing to your subconscious programming.
(15:30) What your attachment style is actually telling you about your childhood.
(29:00) The attachment combination most likely to end in a vicious cycle.
(45:00) Why dating a secure person does not fix an insecure attachment.
(58:00) That one belief that’s quietly destroying your ability to connect.
(1:05:00) What limerence is and why people mistake it for love.
(1:15:00) The five pillars to rewire your attachment style at a subconscious level.
(1:20:00) Why affirmations do not work and what to do instead.
Thank You to Our Sponsors!
AirDoctor: Head toAirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUSTLE to get up to $300 OFF today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty (an $84 value) FREE!
Kion: Visitgetkion.com/habits for 20% OFF
Momentous: Ready to try supplements that actually do what they claim? Head tolivemomentous.com and use code JEN for 35% OFF your first subscription.
Therasage: VisitTherasage.com and use code JEN to get 15% OFF your order. Your skin deserves this level of care.
Magic Mind: Head over tomagicmind.com/jen and use code JEN at checkout.
Prolon: Prolon is offering listeners 30% OFF sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Just visitprolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN and use the code JENNIFERCOHEN to claim your discount and your bonus gift.
Rho Nutrition: Go toRhoNutrition.com and try Rho's Liposomal Glutathione. Use code JEN20 for 20% OFF sitewide.
Manna Vitality: Try it now by using the code Jennifer20 atmannavitality.com.
Find more from Jen Cohen:
Website: jennifercohen.com
Instagram: @therealjencohen
Books: jennifercohen.com/books
Speaking: jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements
Find more from Thais Gibson:
Instagram:@thepersonaldevelopmentschool
YouTube:@thepersonaldevelopmentschool
Podcast:The Thais Gibson Podcast
Facebook: The Personal Development School
TikTok: @thaisgibson
Book: The New Attachment Theory
Attachment Style Quiz: attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
Raw Description
<p>Your subconscious mind is running 95% of your decisions. Your conscious mind, the part that’s setting goals, making resolutions, and telling itself to do better, is only working with the remaining 5%. That gap is why knowing what you should do is never enough.</p> <p>Thais Gibson has spent over a decade building a framework that actually closes that gap. She is a counselor, founder of the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™, and has worked with over 60,000 people through The Personal Development School. In this episode of Habits and Hustle, she breaks down why self-sabotage is not what we all think it is, how your attachment style is quietly running your relationships, and the exact process to rewire patterns you have been carrying since childhood.</p> <p>This is one of those conversations that will make you look at your own behavior completely differently.</p> <p><strong>What's Discussed:</strong></p> <li> <p>(00:05) The real reason your conscious goals keep losing to your subconscious programming.</p> </li> <li> <p>(15:30) What your attachment style is actually telling you about your childhood.</p> </li> <li> <p>(29:00) The attachment combination most likely to end in a vicious cycle.</p> </li> <li> <p>(45:00) Why dating a secure person does not fix an insecure attachment.</p> </li> <li> <p>(58:00) That one belief that’s quietly destroying your ability to connect.</p> </li> <li> <p>(1:05:00) What limerence is and why people mistake it for love.</p> </li> <li> <p>(1:15:00) The five pillars to rewire your attachment style at a subconscious level.</p> </li> <li> <p>(1:20:00) Why affirmations do not work and what to do instead.</p> </li> <p><strong>Thank You to Our Sponsors!</strong></p> <p><strong>AirDoctor:</strong> Head to<a href="http://airdoctorpro.com/"> <u>AirDoctorPro.com</u></a> and use promo code HUSTLE to get up to $300 OFF today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty (an $84 value) FREE!</p> <p><strong>Kion:</strong> Visit<a href="http://getkion.com/habits"> <u>getkion.com/habits</u></a> for 20% OFF</p> <p><strong>Momentous:</strong> Ready to try supplements that actually do what they claim? Head to<a href="http://livemomentous.com/"> <u>livemomentous.com</u></a> and use code JEN for 35% OFF your first subscription.</p> <p><strong>Therasage</strong>: Visit<a href="http://therasage.com/"> <u>Therasage.com</u></a> and use code JEN to get 15% OFF your order. Your skin deserves this level of care.</p> <p><strong>Magic Mind</strong>: Head over to<a href="http://www.magicmind.com/jen"> <u>magicmind.com/jen</u></a> and use code JEN at checkout.</p> <p><strong>Prolon</strong>: Prolon is offering listeners 30% OFF sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Program! Just visit<a href="https://prolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN"> <u>prolonlife.com/JENNIFERCOHEN</u></a> and use the code JENNIFERCOHEN to claim your discount and your bonus gift.</p> <p><strong>Rho Nutrition</strong>: Go to<a href="http://rhonutrition.com/"> <u>RhoNutrition.com</u></a> and try Rho's Liposomal Glutathione. Use code JEN20 for 20% OFF sitewide.</p> <p><strong>Manna Vitality:</strong> Try it now by using the code Jennifer20 at<a href="http://mannavitality.com/"> </a><a href="http://mannavitality.com"><u>mannavitality.com</u></a>.<br></p> <p><strong>Find more from Jen Cohen: </strong></p> <p>Website: <a href="https://jennifercohen.com"><u>jennifercohen.com</u></a></p> <p>Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/therealjencohen"><u>@therealjencohen</u></a></p> <p>Books: <a href="https://jennifercohen.com/books"><u>jennifercohen.com/books</u></a></p> <p>Speaking: <a href="https://jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements"><u>jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements</u></a></p> <p><br></p> <p><strong>Find more from Thais Gibson: </strong></p> <p>Instagram:<a href="https://tracking.us.nylas.com/l/944b934452824210b03acf300dd7a768/16/67e39d45264b29acba3af17ae66bb18324dd3088cc4ded88be19c1572b440827?cache_buster=1771348356"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/?hl=en"><u>@thepersonaldevelopmentschool</u></a></p> <p>YouTube:<a href="https://tracking.us.nylas.com/l/944b934452824210b03acf300dd7a768/18/977ae53d68f03e2b2f482b5583cefa2bdca54bbe96af089976897d87aed42fc6?cache_buster=1771348356"> </a><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ"><u>@thepersonaldevelopmentschool</u></a></p> <p>Podcast:<a href="https://tracking.us.nylas.com/l/944b934452824210b03acf300dd7a768/20/e75ad43927b6988352b6847b73c55f7fbfa8fb81d49c971b9151bc2da7dbc02a?cache_buster=1771348356"> </a><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-thais-gibson-podcast/id1478580185"><u>The Thais Gibson Podcast</u></a></p> <p>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/"><u>The Personal Development School</u></a></p> <p>TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson"><u>@thaisgibson</u></a> </p> <p>Book: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/New-Attachment-Theory-Relationship-Rewiring/dp/1964508584"><u>The New Attachment Theory</u></a></p> <p>Attachment Style Quiz: <a href="https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/"><u>attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/</u></a> </p> <p><br></p>