Science of Social Bonding in Family, Friendship & Romantic Love
Huberman Lab
This episode I discuss the science of social bonding- the process by which we form attachments. I explain the neural and hormonal basis for "social homeostasis" (our drive for a given amount of socializing) which reveals why we get lonely, why we seek out connection with others and how power dynamics (hierarchies) shape those connections. I also discuss the neurochemical basis of introversion and extroversion, of trust and how shared experiences that promote similar physiological states in two or more individuals, leads to more rapid bonding. I also discuss how food and oxytocin play key roles in social bonding. This episode covers quality peer-reviewed science and practical tools for anyone seeking to find, build or end relationships.
Read the full show notes for this episode at hubermanlab.com.
Thank you to our sponsors
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00:00:00 Social Bonding: Child-Parent, Romantic, Friendship, Breakups
00:03:10 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up
00:07:08 Social Bonding as a Biological Process
00:10:03 Social Isolation
00:13:32 Social Homeostasis & Neural Circuits for Social Drive
00:18:55 Brain Areas & (Neuro)Chemistry of Social Drive
00:22:48 What Is Social Homeostasis & Dopamine
00:27:00 When We Lack Social Interactions: Short- Versus Long-Term
00:28:10 Introverts & Extroverts
00:33:54 Loneliness & Dorsal Raphe Nucleus & Social Hunger
00:37:33 Tools
00:38:05 Socializing & Food Appetite: Crossover Craving
00:42:45 Falling in Love
00:45:05 Tools for Social Bonds: Merging Physiologies; Story
00:53:54 Childhood Attachment Patterns in Adulthood
01:03:45 Attachment Styles: Autonomic Versus Intellectual Attachment
01:06:10 Emotional Empathy & Cognitive Empathy, Arguing
01:09:45 Allan N. Schore & “Right Brain Psychotherapy”
01:10:40 Oxytocin & Trust, In Males Versus Females, Hormonal Glue
01:16:10 Repairing Broken Bonds to Self & Others
01:18:56 Social (Media) Butterflies: Biological Basis
01:24:08 Key Points for Bonding & Understanding Social Bonds
01:27:07 Breaking Up
01:28:36 Synthesis
01:31:17 Zero-Cost Support, Sponsors, Supplements, Instagram, Twitter
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Raw Description
<p>This episode I discuss the science of social bonding- the process by which we form attachments. I explain the neural and hormonal basis for "social homeostasis" (our drive for a given amount of socializing) which reveals why we get lonely, why we seek out connection with others and how power dynamics (hierarchies) shape those connections. I also discuss the neurochemical basis of introversion and extroversion, of trust and how shared experiences that promote similar physiological states in two or more individuals, leads to more rapid bonding. I also discuss how food and oxytocin play key roles in social bonding. This episode covers quality peer-reviewed science and practical tools for anyone seeking to find, build or end relationships.</p><p>Read the full show notes for this episode at <a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/science-of-social-bonding-in-family-friendship-and-romantic-love">hubermanlab.com</a>.</p><h2>Thank you to our sponsors</h2><p>AG1: <a href="https://athleticgreens.com/huberman">https://athleticgreens.com/huberman</a></p><p>LMNT: <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/lmnt-back-catalog">https://drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab</a></p><p>Waking Up: <a href="https://wakingup.com/huberman">https://wakingup.com/huberman</a></p><p>Momentous: <a href="https://livemomentous.com/huberman">https://livemomentous.com/huberman</a></p><h2>Timestamps</h2><p>00:00:00 Social Bonding: Child-Parent, Romantic, Friendship, Breakups </p><p>00:03:10 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up</p><p>00:07:08 Social Bonding as a Biological Process </p><p>00:10:03 Social Isolation </p><p>00:13:32 Social Homeostasis & Neural Circuits for Social Drive </p><p>00:18:55 Brain Areas & (Neuro)Chemistry of Social Drive </p><p>00:22:48 What Is Social Homeostasis & Dopamine </p><p>00:27:00 When We Lack Social Interactions: Short- Versus Long-Term </p><p>00:28:10 Introverts & Extroverts </p><p>00:31:00 “Good” Versus “Bad” Social Interactions & Hierarchies </p><p>00:33:54 Loneliness & Dorsal Raphe Nucleus & Social Hunger </p><p>00:37:33 Tools </p><p>00:38:05 Socializing & Food Appetite: Crossover Craving </p><p>00:42:45 Falling in Love </p><p>00:45:05 Tools for Social Bonds: Merging Physiologies; Story </p><p>00:53:54 Childhood Attachment Patterns in Adulthood </p><p>01:03:45 Attachment Styles: Autonomic Versus Intellectual Attachment </p><p>01:06:10 Emotional Empathy & Cognitive Empathy, Arguing </p><p>01:09:45 Allan N. Schore & “Right Brain Psychotherapy” </p><p>01:10:40 Oxytocin & Trust, In Males Versus Females, Hormonal Glue </p><p>01:16:10 Repairing Broken Bonds to Self & Others </p><p>01:18:56 Social (Media) Butterflies: Biological Basis </p><p>01:24:08 Key Points for Bonding & Understanding Social Bonds </p><p>01:27:07 Breaking Up </p><p>01:28:36 Synthesis </p><p>01:31:17 Zero-Cost Support, Sponsors, Supplements, Instagram, Twitter </p><p><a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/disclaimer">Disclaimer & Disclosures</a></p><p> </p><p>Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a></p>
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Show Notes
This episode I discuss the science of social bonding- the process by which we form attachments. I explain the neural and hormonal basis for "social homeostasis" (our drive for a given amount of socializing) which reveals why we get lonely, why we seek out connection with others and how power dynamics (hierarchies) shape those connections. I also discuss the neurochemical basis of introversion and extroversion, of trust and how shared experiences that promote similar physiological states in two or more individuals, leads to more rapid bonding. I also discuss how food and oxytocin play key roles in social bonding. This episode covers quality peer-reviewed science and practical tools for anyone seeking to find, build or end relationships.
Read the full show notes for this episode at hubermanlab.com.
Thank you to our sponsors
AG1: athleticgreens.com/huberman
LMNT: drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab
Waking Up: wakingup.com/huberman
Momentous: livemomentous.com/huberman
00:00:00 Social Bonding: Child-Parent, Romantic, Friendship, Breakups
00:03:10 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up
00:07:08 Social Bonding as a Biological Process
00:10:03 Social Isolation
00:13:32 Social Homeostasis & Neural Circuits for Social Drive
00:18:55 Brain Areas & (Neuro)Chemistry of Social Drive
00:22:48 What Is Social Homeostasis & Dopamine
00:27:00 When We Lack Social Interactions: Short- Versus Long-Term
00:28:10 Introverts & Extroverts
00:33:54 Loneliness & Dorsal Raphe Nucleus & Social Hunger
00:37:33 Tools
00:38:05 Socializing & Food Appetite: Crossover Craving
00:42:45 Falling in Love
00:45:05 Tools for Social Bonds: Merging Physiologies; Story
00:53:54 Childhood Attachment Patterns in Adulthood
01:03:45 Attachment Styles: Autonomic Versus Intellectual Attachment
01:06:10 Emotional Empathy & Cognitive Empathy, Arguing
01:09:45 Allan N. Schore & “Right Brain Psychotherapy”
01:10:40 Oxytocin & Trust, In Males Versus Females, Hormonal Glue
01:16:10 Repairing Broken Bonds to Self & Others
01:18:56 Social (Media) Butterflies: Biological Basis
01:24:08 Key Points for Bonding & Understanding Social Bonds
01:27:07 Breaking Up
01:28:36 Synthesis
01:31:17 Zero-Cost Support, Sponsors, Supplements, Instagram, Twitter
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Raw Description
<p>This episode I discuss the science of social bonding- the process by which we form attachments. I explain the neural and hormonal basis for "social homeostasis" (our drive for a given amount of socializing) which reveals why we get lonely, why we seek out connection with others and how power dynamics (hierarchies) shape those connections. I also discuss the neurochemical basis of introversion and extroversion, of trust and how shared experiences that promote similar physiological states in two or more individuals, leads to more rapid bonding. I also discuss how food and oxytocin play key roles in social bonding. This episode covers quality peer-reviewed science and practical tools for anyone seeking to find, build or end relationships.</p><p>Read the full show notes for this episode at <a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/science-of-social-bonding-in-family-friendship-and-romantic-love">hubermanlab.com</a>.</p><h2>Thank you to our sponsors</h2><p>AG1: <a href="https://athleticgreens.com/huberman">https://athleticgreens.com/huberman</a></p><p>LMNT: <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/lmnt-back-catalog">https://drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab</a></p><p>Waking Up: <a href="https://wakingup.com/huberman">https://wakingup.com/huberman</a></p><p>Momentous: <a href="https://livemomentous.com/huberman">https://livemomentous.com/huberman</a></p><h2>Timestamps</h2><p>00:00:00 Social Bonding: Child-Parent, Romantic, Friendship, Breakups </p><p>00:03:10 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up</p><p>00:07:08 Social Bonding as a Biological Process </p><p>00:10:03 Social Isolation </p><p>00:13:32 Social Homeostasis & Neural Circuits for Social Drive </p><p>00:18:55 Brain Areas & (Neuro)Chemistry of Social Drive </p><p>00:22:48 What Is Social Homeostasis & Dopamine </p><p>00:27:00 When We Lack Social Interactions: Short- Versus Long-Term </p><p>00:28:10 Introverts & Extroverts </p><p>00:31:00 “Good” Versus “Bad” Social Interactions & Hierarchies </p><p>00:33:54 Loneliness & Dorsal Raphe Nucleus & Social Hunger </p><p>00:37:33 Tools </p><p>00:38:05 Socializing & Food Appetite: Crossover Craving </p><p>00:42:45 Falling in Love </p><p>00:45:05 Tools for Social Bonds: Merging Physiologies; Story </p><p>00:53:54 Childhood Attachment Patterns in Adulthood </p><p>01:03:45 Attachment Styles: Autonomic Versus Intellectual Attachment </p><p>01:06:10 Emotional Empathy & Cognitive Empathy, Arguing </p><p>01:09:45 Allan N. Schore & “Right Brain Psychotherapy” </p><p>01:10:40 Oxytocin & Trust, In Males Versus Females, Hormonal Glue </p><p>01:16:10 Repairing Broken Bonds to Self & Others </p><p>01:18:56 Social (Media) Butterflies: Biological Basis </p><p>01:24:08 Key Points for Bonding & Understanding Social Bonds </p><p>01:27:07 Breaking Up </p><p>01:28:36 Synthesis </p><p>01:31:17 Zero-Cost Support, Sponsors, Supplements, Instagram, Twitter </p><p><a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/disclaimer">Disclaimer & Disclosures</a></p><p> </p><p>Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a></p>