The Science of Emotions & Relationships
Huberman Lab
In this episode, I discuss the biology of emotions and moods in the context of relationships. I focus on the science of how early infant-caregiver attachment, combined with adolescence and puberty shape our adult patterns of attachment. I explain the three universal aspects of emotions, the reality of right-brain versus left-brain personalities, and how the roots of adult attachment are also grounded in specific aspects of puberty. I review what factors determine when puberty starts and ends, and the role of oxytocin and other chemicals in controlling how we perceive and remember others. As always, I refer to various practical tools including new tools for understanding and predicting our emotions before they occur, and neurochemicals that shape human connection.
Read the full show notes for this episode at hubermanlab.com.
Thank you to our sponsors
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Waking Up: wakingup.com/huberman
00:00:00 Introduction
00:00:32 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up
00:05:10 Announcing New Cost-Free Resources: Captions, NSDR Link
00:07:40 Emotions: Subjective Yet Tractable
00:10:53 To Understand Your Emotions: Look At Infancy & Puberty
00:15:21 Your First Feeling Was Anxiety
00:17:36 What Are “Healthy Emotions”?
00:19:03 Digital Tool For Predicting Your Emotions: Mood Meter App
00:21:08 The Architecture Of A Feeling: (At Least) 3 Key Questions To Ask Yourself
00:24:00 You Are An Infant: Bonds & Predictions
00:27:57 Attachment Style Hinges On How You Handle Disappointment
00:37:50 An Exercise: Controlling Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Bias
00:42:19 Getting Out Of Your Head: The Attentional Aperture
00:46:59 Puberty: Biology & Emotions On Deliberate Overdrive
00:47:58 Bodyfat & Puberty: The Leptin Connection
00:50:34 Pheromones: Mates, Timing Puberty, Spontaneous Miscarriage
00:54:37 Kisspeptin: Robust Trigger Of Puberty & Performance Enhancing Agent
00:58:26 Neuroplasticity Of Emotions: Becoming Specialists & Testing Emotional Bonds
01:00:25 Testing Driving Brain Circuits For Emotion: Dispersal
01:07:48 Science-Based Recommendations for Adolescents and Teens: The Autonomy Buffet
01:14:18 Left Brain = Language, Right Brain = Spatial Awareness
01:16:15 How To Recognize “Right Brain Activity” In Speech: Prosody
01:18:32 Oxytocin: The Molecule of Synchronizing States
01:20:09 Mirror Neurons: Are Not For “Empathy”, Maybe For Predicting Behavior
01:23:00 Promoting Trust & Monogamy
01:27:00 Ways To Increase Oxytocin
01:28:34 Vasopressin: Aphrodisiac, Non-Monogamy and Anti-Bed-Wetting Qualities
01:30:43 Bonding Bodies, Not Just Minds: Vagus Nerve, Depression Relief Via the Body
01:35:18 A Powerful Tool For Enhancing Range & Depth of Emotional Experience
01:36:43 MDMA and Other Psychedelic Compounds: Building A Framework
01:38:54 Roundup, Various Forms of Support
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Raw Description
<p>In this episode, I discuss the biology of <a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/topics/emotions-and-relationship-psychology">emotions</a> and moods in the context of relationships. I focus on the science of how early infant-caregiver attachment, combined with adolescence and puberty shape our adult patterns of attachment. I explain the three universal aspects of emotions, the reality of right-brain versus left-brain personalities, and how the roots of adult attachment are also grounded in specific aspects of puberty. I review what factors determine when puberty starts and ends, and the role of oxytocin and other chemicals in controlling how we perceive and remember others. As always, I refer to various practical tools including new tools for understanding and predicting our emotions before they occur, and neurochemicals that shape human connection.</p><p>Read the full show notes for this episode at <a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/the-science-of-emotions-relationships">hubermanlab.com</a>.</p><h2>Thank you to our sponsors</h2><p>AG1 (Athletic Greens): <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/ag1BC">https://athleticgreens.com/huberman</a></p><p>LMNT: <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/lmnt-back-catalog">https://drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab</a></p><p>Waking Up: <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/wakingupBC">https://www.wakingup.com/huberman</a></p><h2>Timestamps</h2><p>00:00:00 Introduction </p><p>00:00:32 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up </p><p>00:05:10 Announcing New Cost-Free Resources: Captions, NSDR Link </p><p>00:07:40 Emotions: Subjective Yet Tractable </p><p>00:10:53 To Understand Your Emotions: Look At Infancy & Puberty </p><p>00:15:21 Your First Feeling Was Anxiety </p><p>00:17:36 What Are “Healthy Emotions”? </p><p>00:19:03 Digital Tool For Predicting Your Emotions: Mood Meter App </p><p>00:21:08 The Architecture Of A Feeling: (At Least) 3 Key Questions To Ask Yourself </p><p>00:24:00 You Are An Infant: Bonds & Predictions </p><p>00:27:57 Attachment Style Hinges On How You Handle Disappointment </p><p>00:32:40 “Glue Points” Of Emotional Bonds: Gaze, Voice, Affect, Touch, (& Written) </p><p>00:36:34 “Emotional Health”: Awareness of the Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Dynamic </p><p>00:37:50 An Exercise: Controlling Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Bias </p><p>00:42:19 Getting Out Of Your Head: The Attentional Aperture </p><p>00:46:59 Puberty: Biology & Emotions On Deliberate Overdrive </p><p>00:47:58 Bodyfat & Puberty: The Leptin Connection </p><p>00:50:34 Pheromones: Mates, Timing Puberty, Spontaneous Miscarriage </p><p>00:54:37 Kisspeptin: Robust Trigger Of Puberty & Performance Enhancing Agent </p><p>00:58:26 Neuroplasticity Of Emotions: Becoming Specialists & Testing Emotional Bonds </p><p>01:00:25 Testing Driving Brain Circuits For Emotion: Dispersal </p><p>01:07:48 Science-Based Recommendations for Adolescents and Teens: The Autonomy Buffet </p><p>01:11:05 “Right-Brain Versus Left-Brain People”: Facts Versus Lies </p><p>01:14:18 Left Brain = Language, Right Brain = Spatial Awareness </p><p>01:16:15 How To Recognize “Right Brain Activity” In Speech: Prosody </p><p>01:18:32 Oxytocin: The Molecule of Synchronizing States </p><p>01:20:09 Mirror Neurons: Are Not For “Empathy”, Maybe For Predicting Behavior </p><p>01:23:00 Promoting Trust & Monogamy </p><p>01:27:00 Ways To Increase Oxytocin </p><p>01:28:34 Vasopressin: Aphrodisiac, Non-Monogamy and Anti-Bed-Wetting Qualities </p><p>01:30:43 Bonding Bodies, Not Just Minds: Vagus Nerve, Depression Relief Via the Body </p><p>01:35:18 A Powerful Tool For Enhancing Range & Depth of Emotional Experience </p><p>01:36:43 MDMA and Other Psychedelic Compounds: Building A Framework </p><p>01:38:54 Roundup, Various Forms of Support </p><p><a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/disclaimer">Disclaimer & Disclosures</a></p><p> </p><p>Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a></p>
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Show Notes
In this episode, I discuss the biology of emotions and moods in the context of relationships. I focus on the science of how early infant-caregiver attachment, combined with adolescence and puberty shape our adult patterns of attachment. I explain the three universal aspects of emotions, the reality of right-brain versus left-brain personalities, and how the roots of adult attachment are also grounded in specific aspects of puberty. I review what factors determine when puberty starts and ends, and the role of oxytocin and other chemicals in controlling how we perceive and remember others. As always, I refer to various practical tools including new tools for understanding and predicting our emotions before they occur, and neurochemicals that shape human connection.
Read the full show notes for this episode at hubermanlab.com.
Thank you to our sponsors
AG1 (Athletic Greens): athleticgreens.com/huberman
LMNT: drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab
Waking Up: wakingup.com/huberman
00:00:00 Introduction
00:00:32 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up
00:05:10 Announcing New Cost-Free Resources: Captions, NSDR Link
00:07:40 Emotions: Subjective Yet Tractable
00:10:53 To Understand Your Emotions: Look At Infancy & Puberty
00:15:21 Your First Feeling Was Anxiety
00:17:36 What Are “Healthy Emotions”?
00:19:03 Digital Tool For Predicting Your Emotions: Mood Meter App
00:21:08 The Architecture Of A Feeling: (At Least) 3 Key Questions To Ask Yourself
00:24:00 You Are An Infant: Bonds & Predictions
00:27:57 Attachment Style Hinges On How You Handle Disappointment
00:37:50 An Exercise: Controlling Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Bias
00:42:19 Getting Out Of Your Head: The Attentional Aperture
00:46:59 Puberty: Biology & Emotions On Deliberate Overdrive
00:47:58 Bodyfat & Puberty: The Leptin Connection
00:50:34 Pheromones: Mates, Timing Puberty, Spontaneous Miscarriage
00:54:37 Kisspeptin: Robust Trigger Of Puberty & Performance Enhancing Agent
00:58:26 Neuroplasticity Of Emotions: Becoming Specialists & Testing Emotional Bonds
01:00:25 Testing Driving Brain Circuits For Emotion: Dispersal
01:07:48 Science-Based Recommendations for Adolescents and Teens: The Autonomy Buffet
01:14:18 Left Brain = Language, Right Brain = Spatial Awareness
01:16:15 How To Recognize “Right Brain Activity” In Speech: Prosody
01:18:32 Oxytocin: The Molecule of Synchronizing States
01:20:09 Mirror Neurons: Are Not For “Empathy”, Maybe For Predicting Behavior
01:23:00 Promoting Trust & Monogamy
01:27:00 Ways To Increase Oxytocin
01:28:34 Vasopressin: Aphrodisiac, Non-Monogamy and Anti-Bed-Wetting Qualities
01:30:43 Bonding Bodies, Not Just Minds: Vagus Nerve, Depression Relief Via the Body
01:35:18 A Powerful Tool For Enhancing Range & Depth of Emotional Experience
01:36:43 MDMA and Other Psychedelic Compounds: Building A Framework
01:38:54 Roundup, Various Forms of Support
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Raw Description
<p>In this episode, I discuss the biology of <a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/topics/emotions-and-relationship-psychology">emotions</a> and moods in the context of relationships. I focus on the science of how early infant-caregiver attachment, combined with adolescence and puberty shape our adult patterns of attachment. I explain the three universal aspects of emotions, the reality of right-brain versus left-brain personalities, and how the roots of adult attachment are also grounded in specific aspects of puberty. I review what factors determine when puberty starts and ends, and the role of oxytocin and other chemicals in controlling how we perceive and remember others. As always, I refer to various practical tools including new tools for understanding and predicting our emotions before they occur, and neurochemicals that shape human connection.</p><p>Read the full show notes for this episode at <a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/the-science-of-emotions-relationships">hubermanlab.com</a>.</p><h2>Thank you to our sponsors</h2><p>AG1 (Athletic Greens): <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/ag1BC">https://athleticgreens.com/huberman</a></p><p>LMNT: <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/lmnt-back-catalog">https://drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab</a></p><p>Waking Up: <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/wakingupBC">https://www.wakingup.com/huberman</a></p><h2>Timestamps</h2><p>00:00:00 Introduction </p><p>00:00:32 Sponsors: AG1, LMNT & Waking Up </p><p>00:05:10 Announcing New Cost-Free Resources: Captions, NSDR Link </p><p>00:07:40 Emotions: Subjective Yet Tractable </p><p>00:10:53 To Understand Your Emotions: Look At Infancy & Puberty </p><p>00:15:21 Your First Feeling Was Anxiety </p><p>00:17:36 What Are “Healthy Emotions”? </p><p>00:19:03 Digital Tool For Predicting Your Emotions: Mood Meter App </p><p>00:21:08 The Architecture Of A Feeling: (At Least) 3 Key Questions To Ask Yourself </p><p>00:24:00 You Are An Infant: Bonds & Predictions </p><p>00:27:57 Attachment Style Hinges On How You Handle Disappointment </p><p>00:32:40 “Glue Points” Of Emotional Bonds: Gaze, Voice, Affect, Touch, (& Written) </p><p>00:36:34 “Emotional Health”: Awareness of the Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Dynamic </p><p>00:37:50 An Exercise: Controlling Interoceptive-Exteroceptive Bias </p><p>00:42:19 Getting Out Of Your Head: The Attentional Aperture </p><p>00:46:59 Puberty: Biology & Emotions On Deliberate Overdrive </p><p>00:47:58 Bodyfat & Puberty: The Leptin Connection </p><p>00:50:34 Pheromones: Mates, Timing Puberty, Spontaneous Miscarriage </p><p>00:54:37 Kisspeptin: Robust Trigger Of Puberty & Performance Enhancing Agent </p><p>00:58:26 Neuroplasticity Of Emotions: Becoming Specialists & Testing Emotional Bonds </p><p>01:00:25 Testing Driving Brain Circuits For Emotion: Dispersal </p><p>01:07:48 Science-Based Recommendations for Adolescents and Teens: The Autonomy Buffet </p><p>01:11:05 “Right-Brain Versus Left-Brain People”: Facts Versus Lies </p><p>01:14:18 Left Brain = Language, Right Brain = Spatial Awareness </p><p>01:16:15 How To Recognize “Right Brain Activity” In Speech: Prosody </p><p>01:18:32 Oxytocin: The Molecule of Synchronizing States </p><p>01:20:09 Mirror Neurons: Are Not For “Empathy”, Maybe For Predicting Behavior </p><p>01:23:00 Promoting Trust & Monogamy </p><p>01:27:00 Ways To Increase Oxytocin </p><p>01:28:34 Vasopressin: Aphrodisiac, Non-Monogamy and Anti-Bed-Wetting Qualities </p><p>01:30:43 Bonding Bodies, Not Just Minds: Vagus Nerve, Depression Relief Via the Body </p><p>01:35:18 A Powerful Tool For Enhancing Range & Depth of Emotional Experience </p><p>01:36:43 MDMA and Other Psychedelic Compounds: Building A Framework </p><p>01:38:54 Roundup, Various Forms of Support </p><p><a href="https://www.hubermanlab.com/disclaimer">Disclaimer & Disclosures</a></p><p> </p><p>Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a></p>