The Science of Love, Desire and Attachment
Huberman Lab
In this episode, I discuss the psychology and biology of desire, love and attachment. I explain how childhood attachment types are thought to inform adult attachment styles to romantic partners, and I describe some of the major theories of human mate selection, relationships and infidelity. Additionally, I explore the neurobiology and proposed subconscious processing underlying desire, love and attachment, including the roles of empathy and “positive delusion." I outline how self-awareness can shift one’s relationship attachment style towards securely bonded partnerships. Finally, I describe specific tools and supplements that have been researched to increase libido and sex drive. Throughout the episode, I explain the science and key mechanisms underlying romantic love and outline tools for those seeking to find a strong, healthy relationship, or for those wanting to strengthen an existing relationship.
For the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com.
Thank you to our sponsors
AG1: athleticgreens.com/huberman
LMNT: drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab
Waking Up: wakingup.com/huberman
Momentous: livemomentous.com/huberman
- (00:00:00) Desire, Love & Attachment
- (00:02:59) Odor, Perceived Attractiveness & Birth Control
- (00:08:21) Sponsors: AG1, LMNT
- (00:14:13) Romance: Balancing Love & Desire
- (00:19:00) Animal Studies, Vasopressin & Monogamy
- (00:22:06) Strange Situation Task, Childhood Attachment Styles
- (00:32:52) Adult Attachment Styles
- (00:38:50) Secure Attachment
- (00:41:23) Autonomic Arousal: The “See-Saw”
- (00:50:39) Tool: Self-Awareness, Healthy Interdependence
- (00:53:11) Neurobiology of Desire, Love & Attachment
- (00:58:02) Empathy & Mating & the Autonomic Nervous System
- (01:10:02) Positive Delusion, Touch
- (01:15:20) Relationship Stability
- (01:21:22) Selecting Mates, Recognition of Autonomic Tone
- (01:38:28) Neural Mechanisms of Romantic Attachment
- (01:47:43) Autonomic Coordination in Relationships
- (01:56:13) Infidelity & Cheating
- (02:08:56) “Chemistry”, Subconscious Processes
- (02:12:44) Tools: Libido & Sex Drive
- (02:20:20) Maca (Maca root)
- (02:25:58) Tongkat Ali (Longjack)
- (02:28:56) Tribulus terrestris
- (02:33:14) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify/Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Instagram, Twitter, Supplements
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Raw Description
<p>In this episode, I discuss the psychology and biology of desire, love and attachment. I explain how childhood attachment types are thought to inform adult attachment styles to romantic partners, and I describe some of the major theories of human mate selection, relationships and infidelity. Additionally, I explore the neurobiology and proposed subconscious processing underlying desire, love and attachment, including the roles of empathy and “positive delusion." I outline how self-awareness can shift one’s relationship attachment style towards securely bonded partnerships. Finally, I describe specific tools and supplements that have been researched to increase libido and sex drive. Throughout the episode, I explain the science and key mechanisms underlying romantic love and outline tools for those seeking to find a strong, healthy relationship, or for those wanting to strengthen an existing relationship. </p><p>For the full show notes, visit <a href="https://hubermanlab.com/the-science-of-love-desire-and-attachment/">hubermanlab.com</a>.</p><h2>Thank you to our sponsors</h2><p>AG1: <a href="https://athleticgreens.com/huberman">https://athleticgreens.com/huberman</a></p><p>LMNT: <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/lmnt-back-catalog">https://drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab</a></p><p>Waking Up: <a href="https://wakingup.com/huberman">https://wakingup.com/huberman</a></p><p>Momentous: <a href="https://livemomentous.com/huberman">https://livemomentous.com/huberman</a></p><h2>Timestamps</h2><p>(00:00:00) Desire, Love & Attachment </p><p>(00:02:59) Odor, Perceived Attractiveness & Birth Control</p><p>(00:08:21) Sponsors: AG1, LMNT</p><p>(00:14:13) Romance: Balancing Love & Desire</p><p>(00:19:00) Animal Studies, Vasopressin & Monogamy </p><p>(00:22:06) Strange Situation Task, Childhood Attachment Styles</p><p>(00:32:52) Adult Attachment Styles</p><p>(00:38:50) Secure Attachment </p><p>(00:41:23) Autonomic Arousal: The “See-Saw”</p><p>(00:50:39) Tool: Self-Awareness, Healthy Interdependence</p><p>(00:53:11) Neurobiology of Desire, Love & Attachment </p><p>(00:58:02) Empathy & Mating & the Autonomic Nervous System</p><p>(01:10:02) Positive Delusion, Touch</p><p>(01:15:20) Relationship Stability </p><p>(01:21:22) Selecting Mates, Recognition of Autonomic Tone</p><p>(01:38:28) Neural Mechanisms of Romantic Attachment </p><p>(01:47:43) Autonomic Coordination in Relationships </p><p>(01:56:13) Infidelity & Cheating</p><p>(02:08:56) “Chemistry”, Subconscious Processes</p><p>(02:12:44) Tools: Libido & Sex Drive </p><p>(02:20:20) Maca (Maca root) </p><p>(02:25:58) Tongkat Ali (Longjack) </p><p>(02:28:56) Tribulus terrestris </p><p>(02:33:14) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify/Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Instagram, Twitter, Supplements</p><p><a href="https://hubermanlab.com/disclaimer/">Disclaimer</a></p><p> </p><p>Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a></p>
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Show Notes
In this episode, I discuss the psychology and biology of desire, love and attachment. I explain how childhood attachment types are thought to inform adult attachment styles to romantic partners, and I describe some of the major theories of human mate selection, relationships and infidelity. Additionally, I explore the neurobiology and proposed subconscious processing underlying desire, love and attachment, including the roles of empathy and “positive delusion." I outline how self-awareness can shift one’s relationship attachment style towards securely bonded partnerships. Finally, I describe specific tools and supplements that have been researched to increase libido and sex drive. Throughout the episode, I explain the science and key mechanisms underlying romantic love and outline tools for those seeking to find a strong, healthy relationship, or for those wanting to strengthen an existing relationship.
For the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com.
Thank you to our sponsors
AG1: athleticgreens.com/huberman
LMNT: drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab
Waking Up: wakingup.com/huberman
Momentous: livemomentous.com/huberman
- (00:00:00) Desire, Love & Attachment
- (00:02:59) Odor, Perceived Attractiveness & Birth Control
- (00:08:21) Sponsors: AG1, LMNT
- (00:14:13) Romance: Balancing Love & Desire
- (00:19:00) Animal Studies, Vasopressin & Monogamy
- (00:22:06) Strange Situation Task, Childhood Attachment Styles
- (00:32:52) Adult Attachment Styles
- (00:38:50) Secure Attachment
- (00:41:23) Autonomic Arousal: The “See-Saw”
- (00:50:39) Tool: Self-Awareness, Healthy Interdependence
- (00:53:11) Neurobiology of Desire, Love & Attachment
- (00:58:02) Empathy & Mating & the Autonomic Nervous System
- (01:10:02) Positive Delusion, Touch
- (01:15:20) Relationship Stability
- (01:21:22) Selecting Mates, Recognition of Autonomic Tone
- (01:38:28) Neural Mechanisms of Romantic Attachment
- (01:47:43) Autonomic Coordination in Relationships
- (01:56:13) Infidelity & Cheating
- (02:08:56) “Chemistry”, Subconscious Processes
- (02:12:44) Tools: Libido & Sex Drive
- (02:20:20) Maca (Maca root)
- (02:25:58) Tongkat Ali (Longjack)
- (02:28:56) Tribulus terrestris
- (02:33:14) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify/Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Instagram, Twitter, Supplements
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Raw Description
<p>In this episode, I discuss the psychology and biology of desire, love and attachment. I explain how childhood attachment types are thought to inform adult attachment styles to romantic partners, and I describe some of the major theories of human mate selection, relationships and infidelity. Additionally, I explore the neurobiology and proposed subconscious processing underlying desire, love and attachment, including the roles of empathy and “positive delusion." I outline how self-awareness can shift one’s relationship attachment style towards securely bonded partnerships. Finally, I describe specific tools and supplements that have been researched to increase libido and sex drive. Throughout the episode, I explain the science and key mechanisms underlying romantic love and outline tools for those seeking to find a strong, healthy relationship, or for those wanting to strengthen an existing relationship. </p><p>For the full show notes, visit <a href="https://hubermanlab.com/the-science-of-love-desire-and-attachment/">hubermanlab.com</a>.</p><h2>Thank you to our sponsors</h2><p>AG1: <a href="https://athleticgreens.com/huberman">https://athleticgreens.com/huberman</a></p><p>LMNT: <a href="https://go.hubermanlab.com/lmnt-back-catalog">https://drinklmnt.com/hubermanlab</a></p><p>Waking Up: <a href="https://wakingup.com/huberman">https://wakingup.com/huberman</a></p><p>Momentous: <a href="https://livemomentous.com/huberman">https://livemomentous.com/huberman</a></p><h2>Timestamps</h2><p>(00:00:00) Desire, Love & Attachment </p><p>(00:02:59) Odor, Perceived Attractiveness & Birth Control</p><p>(00:08:21) Sponsors: AG1, LMNT</p><p>(00:14:13) Romance: Balancing Love & Desire</p><p>(00:19:00) Animal Studies, Vasopressin & Monogamy </p><p>(00:22:06) Strange Situation Task, Childhood Attachment Styles</p><p>(00:32:52) Adult Attachment Styles</p><p>(00:38:50) Secure Attachment </p><p>(00:41:23) Autonomic Arousal: The “See-Saw”</p><p>(00:50:39) Tool: Self-Awareness, Healthy Interdependence</p><p>(00:53:11) Neurobiology of Desire, Love & Attachment </p><p>(00:58:02) Empathy & Mating & the Autonomic Nervous System</p><p>(01:10:02) Positive Delusion, Touch</p><p>(01:15:20) Relationship Stability </p><p>(01:21:22) Selecting Mates, Recognition of Autonomic Tone</p><p>(01:38:28) Neural Mechanisms of Romantic Attachment </p><p>(01:47:43) Autonomic Coordination in Relationships </p><p>(01:56:13) Infidelity & Cheating</p><p>(02:08:56) “Chemistry”, Subconscious Processes</p><p>(02:12:44) Tools: Libido & Sex Drive </p><p>(02:20:20) Maca (Maca root) </p><p>(02:25:58) Tongkat Ali (Longjack) </p><p>(02:28:56) Tribulus terrestris </p><p>(02:33:14) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify/Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Instagram, Twitter, Supplements</p><p><a href="https://hubermanlab.com/disclaimer/">Disclaimer</a></p><p> </p><p>Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a></p>