274: Heidi Grant - How To Get People To Help You (Reinforcements)

<p>The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk</p> <p>#274: Heidi Grant - How To Get People To Help You (Reinforcements)</p> <p>The Learning Leader Show</p> <p>"It's not about being good. It's about being better. Be in a constant state of continuous improvement."</p> <p>Show Notes:</p> <ul> <li>Commonalities of sustaining excellence: <ul> <li>"All management is change management"</li> <li>"What's made you successful in the past may not be the case in the future."</li> <li>"How can I learn to be a better leader?'</li> <li>"A constant state of continuous improvement"</li> <li>"You've never arrived."</li> </ul> </li> <li>"It' not about being good. It's about being better."</li> <li>"Focus on getting better, rather than being good."</li> <li>Growth mindset helps you find enjoyment in what you do</li> <li>"Focus on what you will do, not what you won't"</li> <li>Willpower -- Need to be specific. Get to a level of specificiaty</li> <li>Make steady progress <ul> <li>"Have realistic optimism. I will succeed, but it will be hard."</li> </ul> </li> <li>How to define success? <ul> <li>Intrinsic vs extrinsic goals: <ul> <li>A connected-ness to other people</li> <li>Autonomy - Do what feels authentic</li> <li>Being effective - Inherently get satisfaction by "I'm making things by making things happen in the world"</li> <li>"Human beings are wired to to want to feel effective" -- It creates lasting happiness</li> </ul> </li> </ul> </li> <li>Balance - Fundamental things stand in our way. "We all have issues with not being great at everything."</li> <li>Why don't we ask others for help when we need it? The Milgrim subway experiement</li> <li>What does a helper need from you? <ul> <li>Must ask and help the helper be successful</li> </ul> </li> <li>Why we need to eliminate the phrase "Can I pick your brain?" <ul> <li>Just say what you want. Be direct.</li> <li>Send questions in advance. Create opportunities for helpers to be effective</li> </ul> </li> <li>"When you ask someone for help, you're giving them the opportunity to feel amazing"</li> <li>Reinforcements - Extra personnel sent to increase the strength of an army or similar force --&gt; Something that makes a behavior more likely</li> <li>Why joining <em><a href= "http://info.brixeyandmeyer.com/the-learning-leader-circle-applicati?utm_source=email&utm_content=59130975" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Learning Leader Circle</a></em> is a good idea</li> <li>Use the "<a href="http://learningleader.com/gettoknowyou/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Get To Know You Document</a>"</li> </ul> <p>"When you ask someone for help, you're giving them the opportunity to feel amazing."</p> <p>Social Media:</p> <ul> <li>See why over 91,000 people follow Scott on Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/profgalloway" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">@profgalloway</a></li> <li>Read: <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Four-Hidden-Amazon-Facebook-Google/dp/0735213658/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1533926605&sr=8-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><em>The Four</em></a></li> <li>Connect with me on <a href= "https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryanhawk12" target="_blank" rel= "noopener noreferrer">LinkedIn</a></li> <li>Join our Facebook Group: <a href= "https://www.facebook.com/groups/LearningLeader" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Learning Leader Community</a></li> <li>To Follow Me on Twitter: <a href= "https://twitter.com/RyanHawk12">@RyanHawk12</a></li> </ul> <p>More Learning:</p> <p><a href="http://bit.ly/1OOLpjJ">Episode 078:</a> Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon</p> <p><a href="http://bit.ly/2v8THlf" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Episode 216:</a> Jim Collins -- How To Go From Good To Great</p> <p><a href="http://bit.ly/2oBCuex" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Episode 200:</a> Keith Hawk & AJ Hawk -- Showing Up, Doing The Work, Earning Trust, Helping Others, Winning The Super Bowl, Celebrating #200</p> <p><a href="http://bit.ly/2Aqwj2R" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Episode 234</a>: Jocko Willink -- Why Discipline Equals Freedom</p>