289: Philip McKernan- Relationships Move At The Speed Of Vulnerability

<p>The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk</p> <p>Episode #289: Philip McKernan - Relationships Move At The Speed Of Vulnerability</p> <p>Show Notes:</p> <ul> <li>Commonalities of sustaining excellence: <ul> <li>Moments where they feel like a fraud, question themselves. They are more comfortable within those moments <ul> <li>This allows them to bounce back quicker</li> </ul> </li> <li>They seek and attract things that are outside of their normal comfort zone</li> <li>The Picasso example -- The courage to face the failure and own up to it</li> </ul> </li> <li>"Vulnerability is the only way to truly deepen relationships" <ul> <li>"When you say, "I don't know," it helps others feel empowered to help"</li> </ul> </li> <li>Philip felt worthless at age 14. He felt isolated and alone, a burden to try and fit in. "That pain had a purpose." <ul> <li>How to go from an isolated and alone 14 year old to a keynote speaker who moves people to tears?</li> </ul> </li> <li>How to deal with skeptics? <ul> <li>"That's okay. But, I would address it now. Couples typically wait five years too long to get counseling. Do it now."</li> </ul> </li> <li>What do you do? "I create environments for people to go deep. I meet them where they're at."</li> <li>The story of starting this business on the side in an Irish pub. <ul> <li>"The hardest time of my life was at the beginning, but I didn't allow lack of money to impact what I did."</li> <li>"What are you willing to give up to do what you want?"</li> <li>"I stopped making the journey about me... It was about them."</li> </ul> </li> <li>Why Philip will not send his kids to college... <ul> <li>"Spend time learning. You need to understand who you are. A classroom is not built on how to get to know who you are."</li> </ul> </li> <li>The "Planes, Trains, & Automobiles" test: <ul> <li>Kevin Bacon started his career with no lines... But kept working. "Be willing to put in the work. Run for the cab."</li> </ul> </li> <li>Is "follow your passion good advice?" <ul> <li>"Yes and no. There is a big difference between excitement and passion. I believe we all have gifts and so many people use their talents."</li> <li>"For you, sales was a talent, but your gift is connecting with people. To lift them, to help them, to build confidence."</li> <li>"We are all leaders but a lot of people lead from an inauthentic space. It's not what we do, it's how we do it."</li> </ul> </li> <li>What is One Last Talk? <ul> <li>"If you had 15 minutes left to live to share your message, what would you say? You need to share with the world to free yourself."</li> <li>The process creates freedom. People want to connect. This is "team deepening."</li> </ul> </li> <li>Why write a book? <ul> <li>"Everyone has the capacity to make an impact. I believe all of us carry some demons."</li> <li>"It's like five years of therapy in one book." "The book is by me, but it's not for me. I will never sign it."</li> </ul> </li> <li>"One of the greatest burdens a child can bare is the unlived life of their parents."</li> </ul>