566: Jim Dethmer - Conscious Leadership, Radical Responsibility, Energy Audits, Being Fully Present, and Doing What Most Makes You Feel Alive

<p>Order and Read our new book, <em>The Score That Matters</em></p> <p><em><a href= "https://amzn.to/4btcb1o">https://amzn.to/4btcb1o</a></em></p> <p>Full show notes at <a href= "https://www.LearningLeader.com">www.LearningLeader.com</a></p> <p>Twitter/IG: @RyanHawk12 <a href= "https://twitter.com/RyanHawk12">https://twitter.com/RyanHawk12</a></p> <ul> <li aria-level="1">What do leaders who sustain excellence do? They have the ability to be present for an extended period of time. They are here now. They live a life that creates a sustainable presence. <ul> <li aria-level="1">They are fully present. Be here now. Fully here. This makes you available for this creative moment.</li> <li aria-level="1">Play the long game. Excellent leaders play the long game. "Live a life that creates sustainable presence."</li> </ul> </li> <li>Space and Place: It's important to know your soul's home: <ul> <li>For Jim: Northern Michigan. Quiet, still, simple, in nature... "It's recharging for me."</li> </ul> </li> <li>Lead and live intentionally to get to your flow state.</li> <li>Ask: What is it that creates the most "<em>alive-ness</em>" in you? <ul> <li>Do an energy audit. Look at your calendar for the last week. What events make your energy go up, stay neutral, or go down?</li> <li>Maximize for people and events that make your energy go up. <em>"Populate your life with what you love."</em></li> </ul> </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><em>Are you willing to be fully alive? What are you willing to risk to make that happen?</em> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="2"><em>Get rid of energy downers</em>. You can do that in 3 ways. <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="2">Dump it,</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="2">Delegate it</li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="2">Do it differently</li> </ul> </li> </ul> </li> <li>Responsibility – By me: I commit to taking full responsibility for the circumstances of my life, and my physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. I commit to support others to take full responsibility for their lives. <ul> <li><em>I have to = Victim mindset</em></li> <li><em>I choose to = Ownership mindset</em></li> </ul> </li> <li>To me = At the effect of other things. Outside my locus of control.</li> <li>By me = Inside. I am the cause of the experience. Radical responsibility. <em>How am I causing the experience?</em></li> <li>Josh Waitzkin - <em>Make weather what it is. Play in the rain.</em></li> <li><em>Curiosity is everything as a leader.</em></li> <li>The opposite of curiosity is always needing/wanting to be right. <ul> <li>Deconstruct all the places where you want to be right.</li> <li>Most of it stems from fear. There are three fears: <ul> <li>Approval</li> <li>Control</li> <li>Security</li> </ul> </li> </ul> </li> <li>Curiosity - I commit to growing in self-awareness. I commit to regarding every interaction as an opportunity to learn. I commit to curiosity as a path to rapid learning.</li> <li>Candor - I commit to saying what is true for me. I commit to being a person to whom others can express themselves with candor.</li> <li>Accountability and Responsibility: Responsibility is not something that can be assigned, it is something that has to be taken. Responsibility lives in the world of integrity and impeccable agreements. Speak truth in love.</li> <li>"We often describe unconscious leaders as reactive. They react from a "story" about the past or an imagined future, and their personality, ego, or mind takes over."</li> </ul>