596: Arthur Brooks - The Art & Science of Happiness, Defining Your Purpose, Working with Oprah, Living Authentically, and Building The Life You Want

<p dir="ltr">Read our book, The Score That Matters <a href= "https://amzn.to/3XxHi7p">https://amzn.to/3XxHi7p</a></p> <p>Full show notes at <a href= "https://www.LearningLeader.com">www.LearningLeader.com</a></p> <p>Notes:</p> <ul> <li aria-level="1">Arthur grew up with one goal - To be the world's greatest French horn player. He learned that striving for something was fungible across all fields of life. It was a great laboratory for learning.</li> <li aria-level="1">Intrinsic vs Extrinsic motivation - <em>Intrinsic motivation comes from an internal desire to accomplish a goal, while extrinsic motivation comes from external rewards and praise. </em></li> <li aria-level="1">"Misery comes from excessive auto-focus." Misery comes from thinking about yourself too much and not enough about helping others.</li> <li aria-level="1">The curse of the strive... All happiness comes from progress. <ul> <li aria-level="1">The arrival is not the goal.</li> </ul> </li> <li>How to be happy while striving: <ul> <li>Be grateful - Write it down. Do it daily.</li> <li>Always look to help others.</li> </ul> </li> <li>"All research is 'me-search.'"</li> <li>The Four Idols: <ul> <li> Money, Power, Pleasure, and Prestige/Fame. We talked through ours… What are yours?</li> </ul> </li> <li>The Four Focus areas to help with happiness <ul> <li>Faith</li> <li>Family</li> <li>Friendship</li> <li>Serving Others</li> </ul> </li> <li>Define your purpose. Write it down. Understand why you're here. Mine = "To inspire others to <em>value</em> and pursue excellence." Too many people are ok with mediocrity. We should strive for more.</li> <li>Oprah Winfrey is the same person everywhere she goes. She is genuine and authentic to all.</li> <li>Arthur's column helped Oprah stay positive and happy through the pandemic. So much so that she called him and asked to meet. And eventually, write a book together. That book became a #1 best-seller.</li> <li>#1 Life Hack: "Don't lie ever."</li> <li>Arthur is jacked (in great shape). <ul> <li>Taking care of your body helps with unhappiness.</li> <li>Wake up 1.5 hours before dawn. Work out hard. Lift weights. Do challenging cardio.</li> </ul> </li> <li>Life/Career Advice: <ul> <li>Don't worry too much about the first job out of college. Don't sacrifice relationships.</li> <li>Bring love to every relationship and be great at what you do. Be excellent. <ul> <li>Emanate love and show excellence.</li> </ul> </li> </ul> </li> </ul>