David Grutman: The Career Advice Everyone Gets Wrong (#1 Key to Opening Doors That Lead to Success)
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
What if everything you’ve been told about success is missing one key ingredient, how deeply you care?
Jay sits down with David Grutman, one of the most influential names in global hospitality, who built a world-renowned empire from the ground up. Together they unpack a powerful idea that challenges conventional wisdom: what if the real secret to success isn’t detachment, but deeply caring? From his early days as a bartender to creating iconic experiences that shape culture, David reveals how taking things personally, your work, your relationships, and every detail of what you put into the world, can become a driving force for growth. While most people are taught to brush things off, David chose the opposite, turning mistakes, rejection, and feedback into fuel to sharpen his craft and raise his standards.
Jay highlights how David’s success wasn’t built on titles or transactions, but on genuine human connection. From remembering a guest’s drink to building long-term relationships with artists and entrepreneurs, David reveals that real influence comes from adding value without expectation. Jay reflects on how many people chase quick wins or surface-level networking, but true impact lies in playing the long game, showing up consistently, investing in others, and creating meaningful experiences that people never forget.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Turn Mistakes Into Growth
How to Build Relationships That Last
How to Make People Feel Seen and Valued
How to Build Confidence Without a Title
How to Give Feedback That Actually Works
How to Stay Grounded While Winning
Every setback carries a lesson, and every interaction is an opportunity to build something meaningful. When you focus on adding value, staying curious, and giving your best, you begin to create momentum that others can feel.
If you’re ready to level up how you show up in life and relationships, don’t miss David Grutman’s latest book, Take It Personal. Pre-order your copy today, visit: zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-perso...
With Love and Gratitude,
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:11 Why You Should Take It Personal
05:26 The Small Details That Make People Feel Seen
07:48 The Real Path to Self-Improvement
08:47 Turning Anger Into Growth
09:55 How to Give Feedback That Actually Works
11:22 Creating a 10/10 Customer Experience
12:41 Every Day Is a New Opportunity
14:20 Always Bet on Yourself
16:14 Building Something From Nothing
18:06 The Power of Genuine Relationships
21:33 Does Networking Actually Work?
24:09 How to Play the Long Game
28:31 The Truth About Real Success
31:10 Lessons From a Difficult Childhood
32:36 Becoming the Parent You Needed
33:57 Balancing Ambition and Family Life
35:12 Evolving Into Your Next 38:01 The Power of Being a Connector
39:35 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset
41:27 Check Your Ego at the Door
43:36 Staying Grounded While Winning
45:38 The Strength of a True Partnership
48:23 What Makes a Truly Great Idea?
50:19 What Makes Someone Worth Betting On?
51:40 Learning to Slow Down and Reflect
52:52 Finding Joy in the Present Moment
54:17 The One Rule to Live By: Just Be Good
56:14 David in Final Five
Episode Resources:
Website | groothospitality.com
Facebook | facebook.com/davegrutman
Instagram | @davidgrutman
X | @DaveGrutman
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Raw Description
<p>What if everything you’ve been told about success is missing one key ingredient, how deeply you care? </p> <p>Jay sits down with David Grutman, one of the most influential names in global hospitality, who built a world-renowned empire from the ground up. Together they unpack a powerful idea that challenges conventional wisdom: what if the real secret to success isn’t detachment, but deeply caring? From his early days as a bartender to creating iconic experiences that shape culture, David reveals how taking things personally, your work, your relationships, and every detail of what you put into the world, can become a driving force for growth. While most people are taught to brush things off, David chose the opposite, turning mistakes, rejection, and feedback into fuel to sharpen his craft and raise his standards.</p> <p>Jay highlights how David’s success wasn’t built on titles or transactions, but on genuine human connection. From remembering a guest’s drink to building long-term relationships with artists and entrepreneurs, David reveals that real influence comes from adding value without expectation. Jay reflects on how many people chase quick wins or surface-level networking, but true impact lies in playing the long game, showing up consistently, investing in others, and creating meaningful experiences that people never forget.</p> <p>In this episode you'll learn:</p> <p>How to Turn Mistakes Into Growth</p> <p>How to Build Relationships That Last</p> <p>How to Make People Feel Seen and Valued</p> <p>How to Build Confidence Without a Title</p> <p>How to Give Feedback That Actually Works</p> <p>How to Stay Grounded While Winning</p> <p>Every setback carries a lesson, and every interaction is an opportunity to build something meaningful. When you focus on adding value, staying curious, and giving your best, you begin to create momentum that others can feel.</p> <p>If you’re ready to level up how you show up in life and relationships, don’t miss David Grutman’s latest book, <strong>Take It Personal</strong>. Pre-order your copy today, visit: <a href="https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover">https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover</a> </p> <p>With Love and Gratitude,</p> <p>Jay Shetty</p> <p><strong>JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX</strong></p> <p><strong><em>Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: </em></strong><a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe"><strong><em>https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! </em></strong><a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast"><strong><em>https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong>What We Discuss:</strong></p> <p>00:00 Intro</p> <p>01:11 Why You Should Take It Personal</p> <p>05:26 The Small Details That Make People Feel Seen</p> <p>07:48 The Real Path to Self-Improvement</p> <p>08:47 Turning Anger Into Growth</p> <p>09:55 How to Give Feedback That Actually Works</p> <p>11:22 Creating a 10/10 Customer Experience</p> <p>12:41 Every Day Is a New Opportunity</p> <p>14:20 Always Bet on Yourself</p> <p>16:14 Building Something From Nothing</p> <p>18:06 The Power of Genuine Relationships</p> <p>21:33 Does Networking Actually Work?</p> <p>24:09 How to Play the Long Game </p> <p>28:31 The Truth About Real Success</p> <p>31:10 Lessons From a Difficult Childhood</p> <p>32:36 Becoming the Parent You Needed</p> <p>33:57 Balancing Ambition and Family Life</p> <p>35:12 Evolving Into Your Next Chapter</p> <p>38:01 The Power of Being a Connector</p> <p>39:35 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset</p> <p>41:27 Check Your Ego at the Door </p> <p>43:36 Staying Grounded While Winning</p> <p>45:38 The Strength of a True Partnership</p> <p>48:23 What Makes a Truly Great Idea?</p> <p>50:19 What Makes Someone Worth Betting On?</p> <p>51:40 Learning to Slow Down and Reflect</p> <p>52:52 Finding Joy in the Present Moment</p> <p>54:17 The One Rule to Live By: Just Be Good</p> <p>56:14 David in Final Five </p> <p><strong>Episode Resources:</strong></p> <p>Website | <a href="https://groothospitality.com/">https://groothospitality.com/</a> </p> <p>Facebook | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/">https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/</a> </p> <p>Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/">https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/</a> </p> <p>X | <a href="https://x.com/DaveGrutman">https://x.com/DaveGrutman</a> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Show Notes
What if everything you’ve been told about success is missing one key ingredient, how deeply you care?
Jay sits down with David Grutman, one of the most influential names in global hospitality, who built a world-renowned empire from the ground up. Together they unpack a powerful idea that challenges conventional wisdom: what if the real secret to success isn’t detachment, but deeply caring? From his early days as a bartender to creating iconic experiences that shape culture, David reveals how taking things personally, your work, your relationships, and every detail of what you put into the world, can become a driving force for growth. While most people are taught to brush things off, David chose the opposite, turning mistakes, rejection, and feedback into fuel to sharpen his craft and raise his standards.
Jay highlights how David’s success wasn’t built on titles or transactions, but on genuine human connection. From remembering a guest’s drink to building long-term relationships with artists and entrepreneurs, David reveals that real influence comes from adding value without expectation. Jay reflects on how many people chase quick wins or surface-level networking, but true impact lies in playing the long game, showing up consistently, investing in others, and creating meaningful experiences that people never forget.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Turn Mistakes Into Growth
How to Build Relationships That Last
How to Make People Feel Seen and Valued
How to Build Confidence Without a Title
How to Give Feedback That Actually Works
How to Stay Grounded While Winning
Every setback carries a lesson, and every interaction is an opportunity to build something meaningful. When you focus on adding value, staying curious, and giving your best, you begin to create momentum that others can feel.
If you’re ready to level up how you show up in life and relationships, don’t miss David Grutman’s latest book, Take It Personal. Pre-order your copy today, visit: zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-perso...
With Love and Gratitude,
JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:11 Why You Should Take It Personal
05:26 The Small Details That Make People Feel Seen
07:48 The Real Path to Self-Improvement
08:47 Turning Anger Into Growth
09:55 How to Give Feedback That Actually Works
11:22 Creating a 10/10 Customer Experience
12:41 Every Day Is a New Opportunity
14:20 Always Bet on Yourself
16:14 Building Something From Nothing
18:06 The Power of Genuine Relationships
21:33 Does Networking Actually Work?
24:09 How to Play the Long Game
28:31 The Truth About Real Success
31:10 Lessons From a Difficult Childhood
32:36 Becoming the Parent You Needed
33:57 Balancing Ambition and Family Life
35:12 Evolving Into Your Next 38:01 The Power of Being a Connector
39:35 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset
41:27 Check Your Ego at the Door
43:36 Staying Grounded While Winning
45:38 The Strength of a True Partnership
48:23 What Makes a Truly Great Idea?
50:19 What Makes Someone Worth Betting On?
51:40 Learning to Slow Down and Reflect
52:52 Finding Joy in the Present Moment
54:17 The One Rule to Live By: Just Be Good
56:14 David in Final Five
Episode Resources:
Website | groothospitality.com
Facebook | facebook.com/davegrutman
Instagram | @davidgrutman
X | @DaveGrutman
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Raw Description
<p>What if everything you’ve been told about success is missing one key ingredient, how deeply you care? </p> <p>Jay sits down with David Grutman, one of the most influential names in global hospitality, who built a world-renowned empire from the ground up. Together they unpack a powerful idea that challenges conventional wisdom: what if the real secret to success isn’t detachment, but deeply caring? From his early days as a bartender to creating iconic experiences that shape culture, David reveals how taking things personally, your work, your relationships, and every detail of what you put into the world, can become a driving force for growth. While most people are taught to brush things off, David chose the opposite, turning mistakes, rejection, and feedback into fuel to sharpen his craft and raise his standards.</p> <p>Jay highlights how David’s success wasn’t built on titles or transactions, but on genuine human connection. From remembering a guest’s drink to building long-term relationships with artists and entrepreneurs, David reveals that real influence comes from adding value without expectation. Jay reflects on how many people chase quick wins or surface-level networking, but true impact lies in playing the long game, showing up consistently, investing in others, and creating meaningful experiences that people never forget.</p> <p>In this episode you'll learn:</p> <p>How to Turn Mistakes Into Growth</p> <p>How to Build Relationships That Last</p> <p>How to Make People Feel Seen and Valued</p> <p>How to Build Confidence Without a Title</p> <p>How to Give Feedback That Actually Works</p> <p>How to Stay Grounded While Winning</p> <p>Every setback carries a lesson, and every interaction is an opportunity to build something meaningful. When you focus on adding value, staying curious, and giving your best, you begin to create momentum that others can feel.</p> <p>If you’re ready to level up how you show up in life and relationships, don’t miss David Grutman’s latest book, <strong>Take It Personal</strong>. Pre-order your copy today, visit: <a href="https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover">https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover</a> </p> <p>With Love and Gratitude,</p> <p>Jay Shetty</p> <p><strong>JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX</strong></p> <p><strong><em>Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: </em></strong><a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe"><strong><em>https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! </em></strong><a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast"><strong><em>https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong>What We Discuss:</strong></p> <p>00:00 Intro</p> <p>01:11 Why You Should Take It Personal</p> <p>05:26 The Small Details That Make People Feel Seen</p> <p>07:48 The Real Path to Self-Improvement</p> <p>08:47 Turning Anger Into Growth</p> <p>09:55 How to Give Feedback That Actually Works</p> <p>11:22 Creating a 10/10 Customer Experience</p> <p>12:41 Every Day Is a New Opportunity</p> <p>14:20 Always Bet on Yourself</p> <p>16:14 Building Something From Nothing</p> <p>18:06 The Power of Genuine Relationships</p> <p>21:33 Does Networking Actually Work?</p> <p>24:09 How to Play the Long Game </p> <p>28:31 The Truth About Real Success</p> <p>31:10 Lessons From a Difficult Childhood</p> <p>32:36 Becoming the Parent You Needed</p> <p>33:57 Balancing Ambition and Family Life</p> <p>35:12 Evolving Into Your Next Chapter</p> <p>38:01 The Power of Being a Connector</p> <p>39:35 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset</p> <p>41:27 Check Your Ego at the Door </p> <p>43:36 Staying Grounded While Winning</p> <p>45:38 The Strength of a True Partnership</p> <p>48:23 What Makes a Truly Great Idea?</p> <p>50:19 What Makes Someone Worth Betting On?</p> <p>51:40 Learning to Slow Down and Reflect</p> <p>52:52 Finding Joy in the Present Moment</p> <p>54:17 The One Rule to Live By: Just Be Good</p> <p>56:14 David in Final Five </p> <p><strong>Episode Resources:</strong></p> <p>Website | <a href="https://groothospitality.com/">https://groothospitality.com/</a> </p> <p>Facebook | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/">https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/</a> </p> <p>Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/">https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/</a> </p> <p>X | <a href="https://x.com/DaveGrutman">https://x.com/DaveGrutman</a> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>