Dr. Gabor Maté: Constantly Worrying What People Think of You? (THIS Simple Shift Will Help You Trust Yourself and Stop Seeking Approval)
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
In this special live conversation at the Orpheum Theatre in Vancouver, Canada, Jay sits down with renowned physician and trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté for a deeply moving exploration of identity, healing, and the hidden patterns that shape our lives. Gabor explains that our obsession with how others perceive us often begins in childhood, when our fundamental need to be seen and understood isn’t fully met. In response, many people unconsciously adapt, hiding parts of themselves or becoming who they think others want them to be in order to feel accepted and loved.
In this episode you'll Learn:
How to Stop Living for Others’ Approval
How to Break Generational Trauma Patterns
How to Know If You’re Living Your True Life
How to Stop Tying Your Worth to Productivity
How to Recognize When Stress Is Hurting You
How to Listen to Your Inner Voice Again
How to Start Saying “No” Without Feeling Guilty
How to Practice Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Criticism
How to Turn Your Past Coping Patterns Into Healing
How to Ask the Question That Changes Your Life
Real change doesn’t come from forcing yourself to be perfect or trying to fix everything overnight. It begins with small moments of awareness, pausing long enough to listen to that quiet inner voice, asking honest questions about what feels true for you, and giving yourself permission to honor it.
With Love and Gratitude,
JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:41 Why Do We Care So Much About Others’ Opinions?
03:10 Learning to Love People the Way They Need
04:53 How Childhood Shapes Our Need for Approval
06:46 The Dangerous Belief: “I’m Only Valuable If…”
11:02 Why Do We Feel Guilty When We Rest?
12:37 What Stress Is Really Doing to Your Brain and Body
16:19 Saying “No” Is Essential for Your Wellbeing
21:05 The Power of Asking Yourself Honest Questions
23:44 How to Listen to Your Gut Again
29:52 A Live Compassionate Inquiry Session
33:23 Your Healing Is Helping Your Children
35:08 Trusting the Wisdom Already Inside You
36:53 Your Coping Mechanisms Aren’t Failures
40:11 Turning Past Mistakes Into Lessons
41:45 Balancing Self-Improvement and Self-Acceptance
47:54 The Question That Can Change Your Life
Episode Resources:
Website | drgabormate.com
YouTube | @UCsRF06lSFA8zV9L8_x9jzIA
Facebook | facebook.com/drgabormate
Instagram | @gabormatemd
X | @drgabormate
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Raw Description
<p>In this special live conversation at the Orpheum Theatre in Vancouver, Canada, Jay sits down with renowned physician and trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté for a deeply moving exploration of identity, healing, and the hidden patterns that shape our lives. Gabor explains that our obsession with how others perceive us often begins in childhood, when our fundamental need to be seen and understood isn’t fully met. In response, many people unconsciously adapt, hiding parts of themselves or becoming who they think others want them to be in order to feel accepted and loved.</p> <p>In this episode you'll Learn:</p> <p>How to Stop Living for Others’ Approval</p> <p>How to Break Generational Trauma Patterns</p> <p>How to Know If You’re Living Your True Life</p> <p>How to Stop Tying Your Worth to Productivity</p> <p>How to Recognize When Stress Is Hurting You</p> <p>How to Listen to Your Inner Voice Again</p> <p>How to Start Saying “No” Without Feeling Guilty</p> <p>How to Practice Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Criticism</p> <p>How to Turn Your Past Coping Patterns Into Healing</p> <p>How to Ask the Question That Changes Your Life</p> <p>Real change doesn’t come from forcing yourself to be perfect or trying to fix everything overnight. It begins with small moments of awareness, pausing long enough to listen to that quiet inner voice, asking honest questions about what feels true for you, and giving yourself permission to honor it. </p> <p>With Love and Gratitude,</p> <p>Jay Shetty</p> <p><strong>JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX</strong></p> <p><strong><em>Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: </em></strong><a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe"><strong><em>https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! </em></strong><a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast"><strong><em>https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong>What We Discuss:</strong></p> <p>00:00 Intro</p> <p>00:41 Why Do We Care So Much About Others’ Opinions?</p> <p>03:10 Learning to Love People the Way They Need</p> <p>04:53 How Childhood Shapes Our Need for Approval</p> <p>06:46 The Dangerous Belief: “I’m Only Valuable If…”</p> <p>11:02 Why Do We Feel Guilty When We Rest?</p> <p>12:37 What Stress Is Really Doing to Your Brain and Body</p> <p>16:19 Saying “No” Is Essential for Your Wellbeing </p> <p>21:05 The Power of Asking Yourself Honest Questions</p> <p>23:44 How to Listen to Your Gut Again</p> <p>29:52 A Live Compassionate Inquiry Session</p> <p>33:23 Your Healing Is Helping Your Children</p> <p>35:08 Trusting the Wisdom Already Inside You</p> <p>36:53 Your Coping Mechanisms Aren’t Failures</p> <p>40:11 Turning Past Mistakes Into Lessons</p> <p>41:45 Balancing Self-Improvement and Self-Acceptance</p> <p>47:54 The Question That Can Change Your Life</p> <p><strong>Episode Resources:</strong></p> <p>Website | <a href="https://drgabormate.com/">https://drgabormate.com/</a> </p> <p>YouTube | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsRF06lSFA8zV9L8_x9jzIA">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsRF06lSFA8zV9L8_x9jzIA</a> </p> <p>Facebook | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/drgabormate">https://www.facebook.com/drgabormate</a> </p> <p>Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/gabormatemd/">https://www.instagram.com/gabormatemd/</a> </p> <p>X | <a href="https://x.com/drgabormate">https://x.com/drgabormate</a></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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In this special live conversation at the Orpheum Theatre in Vancouver, Canada, Jay sits down with renowned physician and trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté for a deeply moving exploration of identity, healing, and the hidden patterns that shape our lives. Gabor explains that our obsession with how others perceive us often begins in childhood, when our fundamental need to be seen and understood isn’t fully met. In response, many people unconsciously adapt, hiding parts of themselves or becoming who they think others want them to be in order to feel accepted and loved.
In this episode you'll Learn:
How to Stop Living for Others’ Approval
How to Break Generational Trauma Patterns
How to Know If You’re Living Your True Life
How to Stop Tying Your Worth to Productivity
How to Recognize When Stress Is Hurting You
How to Listen to Your Inner Voice Again
How to Start Saying “No” Without Feeling Guilty
How to Practice Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Criticism
How to Turn Your Past Coping Patterns Into Healing
How to Ask the Question That Changes Your Life
Real change doesn’t come from forcing yourself to be perfect or trying to fix everything overnight. It begins with small moments of awareness, pausing long enough to listen to that quiet inner voice, asking honest questions about what feels true for you, and giving yourself permission to honor it.
With Love and Gratitude,
JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:41 Why Do We Care So Much About Others’ Opinions?
03:10 Learning to Love People the Way They Need
04:53 How Childhood Shapes Our Need for Approval
06:46 The Dangerous Belief: “I’m Only Valuable If…”
11:02 Why Do We Feel Guilty When We Rest?
12:37 What Stress Is Really Doing to Your Brain and Body
16:19 Saying “No” Is Essential for Your Wellbeing
21:05 The Power of Asking Yourself Honest Questions
23:44 How to Listen to Your Gut Again
29:52 A Live Compassionate Inquiry Session
33:23 Your Healing Is Helping Your Children
35:08 Trusting the Wisdom Already Inside You
36:53 Your Coping Mechanisms Aren’t Failures
40:11 Turning Past Mistakes Into Lessons
41:45 Balancing Self-Improvement and Self-Acceptance
47:54 The Question That Can Change Your Life
Episode Resources:
Website | drgabormate.com
YouTube | @UCsRF06lSFA8zV9L8_x9jzIA
Facebook | facebook.com/drgabormate
Instagram | @gabormatemd
X | @drgabormate
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Raw Description
<p>In this special live conversation at the Orpheum Theatre in Vancouver, Canada, Jay sits down with renowned physician and trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté for a deeply moving exploration of identity, healing, and the hidden patterns that shape our lives. Gabor explains that our obsession with how others perceive us often begins in childhood, when our fundamental need to be seen and understood isn’t fully met. In response, many people unconsciously adapt, hiding parts of themselves or becoming who they think others want them to be in order to feel accepted and loved.</p> <p>In this episode you'll Learn:</p> <p>How to Stop Living for Others’ Approval</p> <p>How to Break Generational Trauma Patterns</p> <p>How to Know If You’re Living Your True Life</p> <p>How to Stop Tying Your Worth to Productivity</p> <p>How to Recognize When Stress Is Hurting You</p> <p>How to Listen to Your Inner Voice Again</p> <p>How to Start Saying “No” Without Feeling Guilty</p> <p>How to Practice Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Criticism</p> <p>How to Turn Your Past Coping Patterns Into Healing</p> <p>How to Ask the Question That Changes Your Life</p> <p>Real change doesn’t come from forcing yourself to be perfect or trying to fix everything overnight. It begins with small moments of awareness, pausing long enough to listen to that quiet inner voice, asking honest questions about what feels true for you, and giving yourself permission to honor it. </p> <p>With Love and Gratitude,</p> <p>Jay Shetty</p> <p><strong>JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX</strong></p> <p><strong><em>Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: </em></strong><a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe"><strong><em>https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong><em>Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! </em></strong><a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast"><strong><em>https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong></p> <p><strong>What We Discuss:</strong></p> <p>00:00 Intro</p> <p>00:41 Why Do We Care So Much About Others’ Opinions?</p> <p>03:10 Learning to Love People the Way They Need</p> <p>04:53 How Childhood Shapes Our Need for Approval</p> <p>06:46 The Dangerous Belief: “I’m Only Valuable If…”</p> <p>11:02 Why Do We Feel Guilty When We Rest?</p> <p>12:37 What Stress Is Really Doing to Your Brain and Body</p> <p>16:19 Saying “No” Is Essential for Your Wellbeing </p> <p>21:05 The Power of Asking Yourself Honest Questions</p> <p>23:44 How to Listen to Your Gut Again</p> <p>29:52 A Live Compassionate Inquiry Session</p> <p>33:23 Your Healing Is Helping Your Children</p> <p>35:08 Trusting the Wisdom Already Inside You</p> <p>36:53 Your Coping Mechanisms Aren’t Failures</p> <p>40:11 Turning Past Mistakes Into Lessons</p> <p>41:45 Balancing Self-Improvement and Self-Acceptance</p> <p>47:54 The Question That Can Change Your Life</p> <p><strong>Episode Resources:</strong></p> <p>Website | <a href="https://drgabormate.com/">https://drgabormate.com/</a> </p> <p>YouTube | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsRF06lSFA8zV9L8_x9jzIA">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsRF06lSFA8zV9L8_x9jzIA</a> </p> <p>Facebook | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/drgabormate">https://www.facebook.com/drgabormate</a> </p> <p>Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/gabormatemd/">https://www.instagram.com/gabormatemd/</a> </p> <p>X | <a href="https://x.com/drgabormate">https://x.com/drgabormate</a></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
